So, I realize it has been months since I’ve spoken to you last, but it has come to my attention that there is an issue I need to speak to you about- feminism.
I can already hear the groans and sarcastic eye rolls. “Oh god,” you may be thinking “she’s one of those people.” Yes. I am. I am a feminist, or in other words, one who believes all people should be treated equally, no matter what their gender (or race or sexuality or religion, etc, etc) may be.
Now, I have always been a feminist. But my urge to make a post about it was inspired by a boy whom I had the misfortune of calling my friend. He recently sent me a text message telling my I should take part in the “pen under boob” challenge which, according to him, was taking over the Internet. I responded immediately, telling him that I thought he should take part in the “duct tape over mouth” challenge. He seemed unphased and merely repeated the original text. When I asked him why, he said “because you can, I don’t have boobs.”
I am not a toy. My body is not a form of entertainment for other people. I will do what I want to to with my body because it’s mine, and anyone who asks me to do anything out of context like this is being incredibly disrespectful.
Which brings me to the topic of sexual harassment and rape. There are a great deal of opinions on this matter, and here are mine:
- Rape and/or sexual harassment (such as catcalls, inappropriate touching, etc.) should be illegal, no questions asked.
- Nobody should be raped or sexually harassed, no matter who they are.
- If somebody rapes or sexually harasses another human being, they should not in any way blame it on the other person for “provoking” them. We are responsible for our bodies and our actions.
- “Provocative” clothing is not an excuse for rape or sexual harassment!
I’m tired of hearing how girls are “asking for it” when they wear “inappropriate” clothing. Unless they were wearing a shirt that says “hello, please feel free to force me to have sex with you or to make any sexual comments or actions you please!” I can assure you that they were not asking for it. Clothing is a form of self expression, just like art or music, and telling people that by expressing a certain side of themselves they are “asking for it” is not okay. If men (or women) truly are distracted by the crop tops and short shorts most schools forbid, maybe we should focus our efforts less on shaming the girls who are confident with their bodies and more on teaching others to control themselves and not feel the need to get somebody naked whenever they see a bra strap.
Oh, and another thing. For those of you who may believe it is totally acceptable to whistle or call out to someone you find attractive on the street, it isn’t. You may say, “Oh, but it’s complimenting them!” when really, it makes people feel uncomfortable, scared, insecure, violated, and unsafe. Nobody deserves to feel this way. The world should be a safe, happy place, not one where a woman (or a man) feels unsafe walking down their street when wearing short shorts!
Oh, and here’s another thing. Why do people think that clothing needs to be gender defined? Literally all that clothing is is fabric and maybe some sequins or something, so why do we need to judge people who wear clothing that “don’t match” what their gender is? Dresses are pretty. I like dresses. But if a boy wears a dress, suddenly the world is judging him, telling him that he’s too “girly,” or even being mistaken as identifying himself as a girl. I believe that with a gender you weren’t born as is fine, but I don’t believe somebody’s gender is defined by their genders. Boys can still be boys if they wear a dress.
Just because someone wears “boy’s” clothes does not mean they identify as a boy.
Just because someone wears “girl’s” clothes does not mean they identify as a girl.
Wear what you want, and slay it. You’ll look fabulous no matter what.
(I realize most of these images are more female based, and I apologize, I’m just posting quotes that I like and am not at all trying to be gender biased)
Anyways, I’m going to call it a night. I have exams tomorrow *groan* But I’d love to hear what you all think on the issue! I’ve just written my opinions, but please feel free to leave yours in the comments below.
Until next time!